Cole slaw comes primarily in two forms—with a creamy sweet-sour dressing in which the vinegar is somewhat underplayed, and with a sharper dressing in which no milk product is used and the vinegar flavor is predominant. Each cook’s balance of ingredients is her own. The interplay between sweet and sour varies from household to household and is only subtly sensed by an outsider to the community, but is known well by those within!